Self Love this Valentine’s Day
While many people are thinking about passion with Valentine’s day arriving soon, perhaps a little compassion will be extended as well. And not generally speaking – but love and compassion for working towards a healthier you.
Looking inward and having a vulnerable personal conversation about what you want, what you need, and how you wish to walk through the world is a gutsy gift to yourself this Valentine’s day. The questions get asked over and over, and how often do we stop and find a real answer to, “What do you want?”
What do you want to give in relationships?
How do you want to be treated?
What impact will you have?
However, before all of that. Before looking outward, the brave first step is to love your whole self and practice radical acceptance. All of your parts – those you are proud of and those you hide because of embarrassment or shame – all of those parts together make up the body, mind, and spirit of the unique you: a person who is deserving of the best and is capable of individual thoughts and feelings and change.
Connecting with ourselves is more than self care practices like an herbal bath or a pedicure (which are important too!). It’s taking an in-depth look into what helps us feel whole, and the things we each need to belong genuinely. For many, there is a need to heal wounds that get inflicted as we assimilate into a culture or society.
Take time for yourself to explore what needs attention. One way to do this is to tune into Stephi Wagner as she describes the “mother wound” and helps people understand that there is an innate need for healing. More so, that we are all born into a pattern of being a person who is ready to re-connect, but that our parents, and ourselves as parents, are often not supported socially enough to then give to our babies and children.
- Feeling like we are “not enough”
- Feeling like we are “too much”
- Being tone policed by others for our authentic feelings
- Feeling shame about our authentic feelings
- Struggling to make and maintain boundaries
- Shame storms: “I AM a bad mistake” (shame) rather than “I made a bad mistake” (guilt)
- Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings
- Accepting poor treatment from other people
- Self-sabotaging by backing away on the brink of a success
- Attenuation: trying to stay small in body, mind, impact,
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